As a lifelong traveller and a person who hasn’t lived in her home country for more than 20 years, I often wonder where I belong.
With the members of my style club, a similar question comes up as to how much to adapt to the area you live in in terms of style and how much you want or need to fit in.
Although one is a more deeper and profound question, the other seems simpler and more focused on one aspect of who we are (style) but they are very much related.
It’s about belonging and fitting in. And as it turns out these 2 are very different indeed.
Mary Angelou once said:
“You only are free when you realize you belong no place – you belong every place – no place at all. The price is high. The reward is great.”
“I belong to myself. I’m very proud of that. I’m very concerned of how I look at Maya. I like maya very much.”
Below is a snippet of that interview.
That quote seems counter intuitive. How can you belong when you belong no place?
That is a question Brene Brown examines in her new book: Braving the Wilderness.
Brene Brown (from an interview with Lewis Howes) says:
“I feel I belong everywhere I go, no matter where it is or who I’m with as long as I never betray myself. And the minute I become who you want me to be in order to fit in and make sure people like me is the moment I no longer belong anywhere.”
As Brené mentions after saying that, that is hard. It’s an everyday practise.
But that is what I aspire to and how I will define ‘belonging’ to me.
It’s one reason I believe in my style course so much as this is truly a journey of exploration of who we are and how women can stay true to themselves.
It’s also the reason why I believe so strongly that as women we need to choose our own paths. Create a life on our own terms without having to fit into a company or a society that boxes us in or stops all creativity that we have inside us from coming out. It’s why I believe in the freedom of enterpreneurship.
It’s never too late to become that person that you truly are, that truly belongs to you.
If you want to explore how you can stay true to your style and be happy with yourself no matter what others may say, you will love the 21 steps style course.
If you want to explore the opportunities that entrepreneurship can offer you, then I would like to take you on that journey of discovery as well. You can start by watching my free workshop.
Discover your gifts and how you can make a difference.
Discover what it is that you want to do.
And discover all the opportunities that the internet has opened up for you to reach worldwide audiences and create an impact.
Here is another quote from Brené to inspire you:
“Choose courage over comfort, because you can’t have both”.
Would love to hear your feedback on this. Do you feel you belong to you?